Swinger resorts are like summer camp for swingers.
From the time you step foot off the plane until you step back onto the plane, you are in for non stop fun. Vacations are meant to be fun filled and relaxing at the same time, and these resorts offer the best of both worlds. Most swingers who have been to one of the resorts return home with stories of fun and excitement.
What about couples who are not actually swingers, but rather are curious about the lifestyle? Is a lifestyle resort a place they might enjoy?
That totally depends on the couple. I use ‘couple’ because some resorts don’t even allow single guests. For many swingers, they appreciate the more relaxed atmosphere that this rule creates.
Many couples hear about swinging and they think they are ready to jump right in, while others would like to test the waters a bit before committing to anything with anyone. They are in the “I just want to watch” mode and so they worry that these resorts might not be the right place for them. Lifestyle resorts are actually a wonderful way for both types of newbies to get an up close look at what swinging is really like. For those who just want to observe, there is no pressure to be involved because of the shear number of people around. For those who want to jump in with both feet, there will be plenty of swingers who would be happy to show you the ropes.
Some resorts are more upscale in terms of the accommodations and the food. If this is important to you, pay close attention to online reviews. One thing that is especially important is to try to book your trip when there is a swinger group expected at the resort. The resorts are always liveliest when swinger groups are scheduled to be there.
The different resorts also seem to attract different age groups. Some attract the younger groups while others tend to host more of the older swingers. This is especially important if age matters to you. A word of caution: younger crowds do not necessarily mean more swinging. Again, try to coordinate your trip with specific swinger groups to make sure the resort is not too quiet.
In terms of having your first ever swinging experience at a lifestyle resort, you have to know what you are comfortable with before you arrive. Communicate with your partner regarding what you are hoping for while you are there and what is absolutely off limits.
Without a doubt, if you are looking to swing, this will be possible at any lifestyle resort. The important this is to have this conversation before you arrive. Make sure both of you are on the same page. If you want to jump right in a swap with another couple, make sure your partner agrees with this. Seasoned swingers do not like to find themselves in between a couple who is arguing or unhappy. If you discuss things before arriving at the resort, this should make the experience smoother and more enjoyable for everyone.
Check the website before you go as most places have theme nights at their clubs. You will be expected to dress in theme if you want to attend the clubs.
Some resorts are clothing optional while some enforce nudity. These types of resorts usually attract both nudists and swingers. Do not confuse nudists with swingers as they are not interchangeable. One of the reasons we developed the lifestyle jewelry was to make it easy to know who the swingers are while vacationing at resorts such as these. Make sure the resort you are looking into hosts swingers, as some naturist resorts do not.
Will people expect you to play?
This is a logical concern for those new to the lifestyle and the answer is no. Nobody will expect anything from you, especially if you make it clear at the start.
Don’t flirt with other couples and lead them on if you have no intention of following through. Most swingers think if couples are at these resorts it is because they are looking to play with others.
Will we be able to watch other couples play if we are not playing?
Yes, it is not uncommon to see couples playing on the beach or in the water. If you wander around at night you can see people all around playing. Some leave their hotel doors open so others can come in and watch. Many times there are games during the day at the pool or foam parties and lots of people will be playing then as well.
The best part for new couples is that it will give them a chance to meet other swingers and see how nice and inclusive most of them can be. It is also helpful to discover that swingers remain happy together even after playing with others. This is usually of concern to couples who do not swing. The vacation is intended to be fun and swingers know how to have a good time.
What resorts have you been to that you would recommend?
We have been to Desire Riviera Maya, Desire Pearl, Cap D’agde, Secrets Hideaway, Caliente and Hedonism. We have been to a few others but they were too small to call them resorts. We had a great time at each place and we like them all for different reasons.
The best way to choose is to go online and take a look at each place. Their locations vary so sometimes that will make the decision for you. Read the reviews on each and go to forums on different sites to ask other people’s opinions.
No matter which place you choose, don’t go with preconceived notions as to what will happen when you are there. No expectations means you cannot be disappointed that something did not go as planned. If you want something to happen, chances are it will Be friendly, open minded and enjoy!